I was saddened and struck with a flood of memories about Bob, Cindy, the Cumberland County Library, my former co-workers, Angie and a pair of adorable twin baby boys. But wanted to write something coherent -- though not sure you will find this string of thoughts will be very coherent.
My first thought ( and the picture on the right IS the Bob I remember.) was when I was living with Bob and Cindy in the Cape Cod house down the road from Millville High School. I have never been a morning person and much to my horror Bob not only was up early, usually made breakfast, but he was cheerful and SANG.....I was so appalled, most mornings. I remember he loved to cook and experiment -- he would pick a culinary tradition and we were treated to French and Chinese dishes along with whatever songs he knew (thank goodness not many in Chinese.)
I remember he easy going personality and am sure he kept me from being fired on multiple occasions when he was Assistant Director. I have always hated bullies and the Director was definitely one and I was vocal and always plotting ways to overthrow him ( like taking up a collection in the staff lounge to rent a mini-sub to sink him on the lake outside his home when he was out in the rowboat).
I don't remember his ever losing his temper which was amazing since Cindy and I were almost more activist oriented. I remember Angie and the difficulties of raising an adolescent, which made me realize just what a horror I had been for my parents to raise.
I remember the help and support from both Bob and Cindy to my finishing college and applying to graduate school because having landed accidently at the Cumberland County Library simply by taking a Civil Service Exam, I realized THIS was what I wanted to do.
I remember Cindy and Bob's library courtship, early marriage and twin baby boys. Bob was so proud....don't remember his being a great deal of infant help and your Mom always wanted to do everything right and perfect.
And I wonder at the lifetime that has slid by -- though I was in touch with Bob through Library channels and know how proud he was of both of you. I am amazed that after how close the three of us had been, how distance (I moved to Georgia, London, England, Bend, OR and now Florida) but how clear and precious those memories are.
If I get to travel up the East Coast again, I hope to meet the two young men you have become.
Kathy Duffy
1 Bruning LN
Palm Coast FL 32137
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